Saturday / June 25 / 2011
When girl meets girl: sharing the wealth of happily-ever-after
It’s the daydream of every little girl, fancying her wedding day, imaging how special it will be, how pretty she’ll look — even dressing the part and practicing poses, beginning around age four. At this stage, the “who” she’ll marry isn’t nearly as important as the dress she’ll be wearing — provided the “who” has no “s” before “he”.
Last night, our world changed. The barriers tumbled and the wealth of legally happily-ever-after spread. New York State Governor Andrew Cuomo announced the passage of the Marriage Equality Act, granting same-sex couples the freedom to legally marry. In Governor Cuomo’s words, “With the world watching… marriage equality will become a reality in our state, delivering long overdue fairness and legal security to thousands of New Yorkers.”
In response, my girlfriend Edie fittingly posted on her Facebook wall, “Congratulations NY for…….geeze, not really sure what to write. For allowing love to be legal?” Indeed it’s disheartening a vote had to be taken to “legalize love” for some. But this long overdue delivery brings more than a glimmer of hope in the New York state air this day, it brings shouts of jubilation.
I vividly remember when my Mr. Right proposed. Together we planned our special day, taking into consideration the imaginativeness of my four-year-old fancies. Six months later, I was united with the man of my dreams, my best friend, my playmate, my lover, my companion, my soulmate. Suddenly the dress I was wearing had zero importance … well, admittedly less than it did when I was four.
How lucky we were to have so little worry about the start to our forever after. You see, once Skip-n-I decided we were “the one” for each other, the only wedding plans we had to worry about were financial, logistical, and deciding where to honeymoon. We never for one minute had to concern ourselves with being allowed to legally wed, to say “forever” in front of our loved ones, to proclaim our love to the world.
How luxurious to be heterosexuals.
My friends De-n-Cindy share pure love, which they unabashedly spend on one another. Theirs is true love. Theirs is a contagious demonstration of how companionship and passion should be nurtured in relationship. This is precisely why they got engaged the year before last (celebrating 10 beautiful years together) and why today, De’s Facebook proudly proclaims, “Because we’re …Going to the Chapel of Love‘”. (giddy!)
I love how The Adirondack Chick said it in a tweet earlier today, “Yay for gay NYers! Welcome to the wonderful world of family dinners filled w/ questions about when ur getting married.”
But oh, what a celebration it will be!