Heart Led Health by Coach Donna

Saturday / December 10 / 2011

The question that does not discriminate

Stunning sunset in Charleston, South Carolina (September 13, 2011)
Stunning sunset in Charleston, South Carolina (September 13, 2011)

Ah, the age old question that does not discriminate. No matter gay or straight, rich or poor, young or old, educated or not, this question invades everyone’s space. Everyone’s.

Have you ever pondered, “Why am I here?” Why does life exist? Why does my life exist?

Regardless of how deeply you’ve pondered this, I want to share a critical truth with you… *listen!*

Your life is what it is for a reason. Your life matters. 

Friends, at the very core of your individuality, you are a unique creature. You were designed by God – very deliberately – to be set apart, special, precious, like no other. You are beautiful. You are a miracle. It makes no difference where you come from, who your parents are, who you know, where you went (or didn’t go) to school, what color your arms are, what faith you embrace, who you were born to love, or what you do for a living.

Your life matters.

For some of us, that truth resonates rather easily, even if the “why” isn’t fully understood. For some of us, though, that truth has very little reality. So how do you begin to grasp it?

Begin with the thought. Your mind is powerful. Very powerful. Harness it. If you think you’re worthless, you’ll be worthless. But if you think you have some value, you’ll act as though you have some value.

Back to the question of why does your life exist. What answers have you come up with? I hope you’ll share them with us in the comments section below.

As I’ve personally pondered this question, I’ve learned there’s no real grandiose, surprising answer about me making some sort of noticeable splash in the world’s ocean. I’ve learned it’s much more intimate than that. More personal. And all about relationships.

I am here to share a kind word when one is needed, to love and encourage others by truly investing in their lives, to smile a contagious smile, to listen, to be passionate, to embrace life and to encourage others to do likewise.

Every choice you make matters. Choose to live life fully. Choose to invest in yourself. Choose to invest in others. At the ten thousand foot level, that’s why we’re all here. At the zoomed-in micro-level, we’re here to function in our one-of-a-kind way. The way that will only be realized if you live it out.

More than anything, I believe I need to be me and you need to be you. God designed you to be you… uniquely you. He didn’t make any backups or understudies. So, if you’re not being you, no one is. What a loss for this world.

Respect your individuality. Recognize your uniqueness. Be kind, loving, respectful, and accepting… of YOU!

6 responses to “The question that does not discriminate”

  1. Sue Mills says:

    Donna thank you, I have Always pondered that Question who,how,why and when. I would like to find the answers.

    • Donna Smaldone says:

      Thank you for your comment, Sue. They are indeed questions we all ponder. But I think the answers lie within the simple parts of our every day life.

      You are special. And you are loved!


  2. Rick says:

    Donna, this is amazing stuff.

    I think why we’re here changes throughout our lives. There are all the usual things you mention, particularly at the micro-level, but, if you are one who does different types of work throughout your life, I think your purpose changes.

    When I managed about 40 people, I saw my purpose as being more than making the company I worked for more profitable. My purpose was to create the best possible working experience for my employees (which, coincidentally, made for happier employees…and a more profitable company).

    Now, as a writer, I believe I’m here to help gay people see themselves more clearly, to accept who they are, to know their self-worth, and to love themselves. I’m just one person, and I can only make a small splash in the ocean, as you put it. But, at the very least, I’m doing something.

    As you are doing something, too, Donna, with your powerful words and spirit.

    (I’m trying to figure out how best to share the message of this post with my readers. Perhaps a link to your blog is the only way.)

    • Donna Smaldone says:

      You are right about the ever-changing piece, Rick. I believe it’s all part of each individual’s You Evolution.

      I’d love for you to share a link with your readers!

      Thank you for making a difference in this world, Rick. A splash in the ocean only seems small to the aerial viewer, but to those drops of water, it means everything.


  3. Bill Dameron says:

    “why am I here?” That is a big question, and one that changes from day to day. To be a father, a husband, a writer, a friend. But in the end, you have hit the nail on the head, we are each here for a different reason, to be uniquely us. Nobody does you better than you!

    • Donna Smaldone says:

      Well-said, Bill. God designed you to be you and me to be me. He didn’t make any duplicates, so, if you’re not being you, no one is. And we need you! So glad you’re here.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts.


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